Brooklyn’s instrumental powerhouse The Budos Band will host their own hometown New Year’s gigs with a double date of shows at the Knitting Factory on Saturday, December 30th, and Sunday, December 31st. Musically, The Budos Band draws its unique sound from an amalgamation of influences, such as Ethiopian afrobeat, soul, funk, psychedelic rock, and even some prog-metal stylings. On stage, the band is a force to be reckoned with, bordering on the brink of mainly organized chaos, though always keeping a natural ebb and flow that keeps listeners grooving in some way, shape, or form. (More information on The Budos Band’s upcoming NYE run can be found here).Nathaniel Rateliff & The Night Sweats And The Budos Band Hit Red Rocks For First Of Two Nights [Photos]Back in 2005, The Budos Band landed a spot on funk and soul label Daptone Records—a label that has had the privilege of sharing the music of Sharon Jones & The Dap-Kings, Charles Bradley, Lee Fields, The Sugarman 3, Antibalas, and more—with their self-titled debut album. With the release of 2014’s Burnt Offering, “The band embraced the thick, Lo-Fi grunginess of 60’s era Blues and Rock albums, leaning heavily on fuzz boxes and echo to color the palate of the album.” The group has toured around the world, shared the stage with the unforgettable talent Charles Bradley on several occasions, and now carry the torch for Daptone Records with the untimely passings of both Bradley and Sharon Jones over the last year.The Budos Band with Charles Bradley, “Heart of Gold”[via Tim McG Photography & Video]Joining The Budos Band for their upcoming two-night Knitting Factory New Year’s Eve run will be Electric Citizen, The Nude Party, Evolfo, DJ Mikey Post, as well as a just announced special Sunflower Bean DJ Set on the 31st. Electric Citizen hails from Cincinnati, OH and is straight up, in-your-face rock and roll led by the incredible vocals of lead singer Laura Dolan.Electric Citizen, “Light Years Beyond”[via RidingEasy Records]The Nude Party is self-described “boner pop”—yes, you read that correctly—and clearly take life very seriously, as can be seen in their video (and possibly the greatest music videos of all time) for “Time To Go”.The Nude Party, “Time To Go”[via The Nude Party]Brooklyn’s own garage-soul act Evolfo will keep things local and is poised to make some serious moves of their own after releasing their latest album Last of the Acid Cowboys earlier this year.Evolfo, “Last Of The Acid Cowboys”[via Sofar Sounds]Tickets for the upcoming two-night Knitting Factory run are currently on-sale. Purchase tickets for December 30th here, and for December 31st here. A limited amount of two-night passes are available via Ticketweb. For event updates and additional information, join the Facebook Event page.Enter To Win A Pair Of Tickets Below!<span data-mce-type=”bookmark” style=”display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;” class=”mce_SELRES_start”></span>
St. Patrick’s Day, the booziest holiday of the year, is just around the corner—wait, don’t crack open that Guinness yet! It’s not until Monday, guys, relax. But while you’re getting your leprechaun costume dry-cleaned, we have a very important question for you. Broadway is full of fun and hilarious characters, and some of them know how to party (Mrs. Wormwood, we’re looking at you). We’ve assembled a few of our favorites we think it might be awesome to get a few drinks with. So we have to know—which one of these Broadway characters do you want to get obliterated with this St. Patrick’s Day? Grab your four leaf clover shot glass and cast your vote below! View Comments
Take The Journey Molly Tuttle Having only arrived in Nashville in 2015, the 26 year old singer/songwriter has already picked up Instrumentalist of the Year honors from the Americana Music Association and a Song of the Year award from Folk Alliance International. Tuttle’s stunning guitar work and song writing prowess have given her the uncanny ability to appeal to listeners across the acoustic world; bluegrass, country, and folk fans flock to her. What You Do To Me Hamish Anderson 2:34 4:36 Force Of Nature Unspoken Tradition Get out there and grab a couple of these records. Share a favorite or two with a friend. The time and money will be well spent. Each month, tremendous artists allow Trail Mix to share their music. Give a little back and show them we are paying attention. 4:46 Summer Candy Ona 2:41 Talk to Myself Lucette Audio PlayerMolly TuttleTake The JourneyUse Up/Down Arrow keys to increase or decrease volume.00:000:00 / 2:43 3:57 5:21 3:44 Backroads Chain Station Baby, Please Come Home Jimmie Vaughan The Long Way Home WC Beck Scars We Keep Ordinary Elephant 3:51 3:52 4:38 I Want It Back The Get Ahead 2:43 Chosin Abigail Dowd 2:51 This month, Trail Mix is happy to include “Take The Journey,” from Tuttle’s new record, When You’re Ready, which dropped late last month. Savior Southern Avenue Between The Country Ian Noe Shotgun Rider Rj Cowdery 3:35 Also check out new tunes from April Verch, Lowland Hum, Ordinary Elephant, Chain Station, Unspoken Tradition, RJ Cowdery, WC Beck, Hamish Anderson, Silver Lake 66, The Get Ahead, Lauren Crosby, Southern Avenue, and The Shootouts. Faded Tattoo Silver Lake 66 4:09 2:54 2:56 Molly Tuttle is taking the acoustic world by storm. Copy and paste this code to your site to embed. Embed Cleaning House The Shootouts 2:39 And stay tuned to the Trail Mix blog. Ticket giveaways to Papadosio at Pisgah Brewing Company and the Cold Mountain Music Festival are on tap, as are chats with Abigail Dowd and the whitewater rafting guys in Groundhog Gravy. Blessed and Cursed Casey Kristofferson Band 4:54 Lots of new tracks this month that have Trail Mix pretty excited. Check out new stuff from up and coming Ona and Ian Noe, along with Casey Kristofferson, daughter of the legendary Kris, Lucette, whose new record was produced by Sturgill Simpson, and the return of blues icon Jimmie Vaughan. 1:55 You Don’t Need A Rose Lauren Crosby 4:05 Laurel Lee April Verch Eye In The Sky Lowland Hum
Colombian President Iván Duque visited patients seen on the USNS Comfort. (Photo: U.S. Embassy, Colombia) By Carolina González / Diálogo August 30, 2019 The medical assistance, which included more than 100 surgeries, benefited the least privileged communities, as well as Venezuelan migrants in Colombia. According to July 2019 figures from Migración Colombia, 1.4 million Venezuelans have fled to Colombia. The Santa Marta region is home to about 70,000 Venezuelans, many of whom do not have access to health services.U.S. Navy Admiral Craig S. Faller, commander of U.S. Southern Command, said at the start of Continuing Promise 2019: “U.S. Southern Command is committed to the region in support of our Caribbean and Latin American partners, as well as displaced Venezuelans who continue to flee the brutal oppression of the Maduro regime and its interlocking, man-made political, economic, and humanitarian crises.”Colombian President Iván Duque visited the ship during its stop in Colombia and thanked the United States “for the significant support provided in the care of nearly 6,000 patients. We saw the medical and humanitarian work the professionals of hospital ship USNS Comfort carried out. We thank the U.S. government for assisting vulnerable communities, especially Venezuelan migrants,” said Duque.For his part, U.S. Secretary of Health and Human Services Alex Azar also stressed the importance of Colombia’s solidarity in the face of the Venezuelan humanitarian crisis, which led 4 million Venezuelans to migrate in the last four years, according to a June 2019 report from the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees. “I would like to highlight the amazing work the USNS Comfort team carried out, which is a great symbol of U.S. generosity.”One of the Venezuelan patients seen during the mission expressed her thanks and said she had to leave her country due to the lack of medical services and medication. “Hyperinflation in Venezuela is what has affected us most, all because of a very corrupt government. Health services are deplorable; the country’s situation is deplorable. Newborns and people who could be saved die every day, but Maduro’s government is letting us die,” said Maria Alvarado who is from Maracaibo, Venezuela, and has been living in Colombia for two and a half years with her husband and three children.Continuing Promise has been in operation for 12 years, conducting trips to Latin America to provide health care and surgeries to underprivileged people, and helping with school construction, veterinary services, and medical exchanges with specialists from the mission’s host countries.
Sign up for our COVID-19 newsletter to stay up-to-date on the latest coronavirus news throughout New York There’s a stretch of Cantiague Rock Road in Hicksville, just north of Hicksville High School, its middle school and Lee Avenue Elementary, where pedestrians aren’t permitted to stand on the sidewalk.There are no signs stating this, no barricades cordoning the area off, no flashing lights demarcating a construction zone or telling passersby it’s private property. But if you stop there for even a few moments to take a gander at the fenced-off property—three decrepit-looking buildings and their equally decrepit-looking parking lots—any day of the week, during any time of day, 24/7, someone will unquestionably instruct you to keep moving, to shuffle along, scram.If your intention is to snap a few photos, as mine was at about 3 p.m. on the Sunday before Christmas Eve, you’ll get more than advice; undoubtedly you’ll receive an angry visit by one of several charged-up, plain-clothed men shouting for you to buzz off—they might even chase you away.There’s really not much to look at, though. Sandwiched between a distribution warehouse on its south, a driving range and children’s playgrounds of Nassau County’s Cantiague Park on the east, and the county’s Department of Public Works headquarters on the north, the three parcels at 140, 100 and 70 Cantiague Rock Road are silent and devoid of life.The latter’s facade is a beat-up, worn-down brown, with cloudy windows, drawn blinds and the faded outline of its former tenant, Air Techniques, tattooed on its side. At 100 next door stands a naked flagpole, a vast loading dock area long since abandoned and weeds towering several feet high. Several massive metal frames arch above an alley between it and the 140 building, which has part of its exterior wall peeling off and is covered in shredded plastic.It’s here where an outhouse-shaped guard booth is manned around the clock.“Off the property,” said an agitated, bespectacled, middle-aged man sporting a moustache when a camera crew and I recently visited to ask a few questions. A mock “Terrorist Hunting Permit” was fastened to his window. “This is private property. Get off the property,” he commanded, refusing to explain who he worked for before slamming the door.[Click here for more photos of Hicksville’s atomic waste site]There’s a secret in Hicksville. It’s a secret that only a handful of residents of this suburban hamlet know all too well while way too many others haven’t a clue. A secret that has already cost one of the biggest communications companies in the world millions and may end up costing them much, much more. It’s a secret that no matter how tight a lid the security guards stationed there or the site’s owners, Verizon, try to keep on it, the truth is literally leaking out—bleeding into the soil, contaminating the air and poisoning Long Island’s precious groundwater supply.It’s a revelation that Ronkonkoma resident Gerard Depascale, a father of three and recent grandfather, and his former coworker Liam Neville, of Bayside, Queens fought relentlessly to find out, a reality they live with every single moment of their lives, one the global communications giant is doing everything in its power to control. It’s an ongoing tragedy that a federal judge recently made even more tragic for the plaintiffs; a reality that will undoubtedly affect more families in the future.This vacant 10.5-acre stretch of land, just north of those schools, separated by a chain-link fence from the public park and situated directly across the street from Nassau BOCES Career Preparatory High School, is a radioactive toxic waste site where nuclear elements and fuel rods were fabricated and processed during the nation’s early atomic energy program in the 1950s and 1960s.Uranium was burned here. It was released into the surrounding neighborhood from an open “smelting oven,” according to one former worker—or within a “burning building,” according to another. It was also buried here, along with nickel and much more. Unknown amounts of chlorocarbons—Tetrachloroethene, or Perchloroethylene, known as PCE and PERC, respectively—and byproduct chlorinated hydrocarbon Trichloroethylene, or TCE (classified as a human carcinogen by the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency), were dumped into unlined sumps and leeching pools, and currently reside in the soil, the groundwater and have volatilized into the air.People who unknowingly worked atop the site, such as Depascale and Neville, have contracted rare—make that extraordinarily rare and obscure—cancers.Neville has a rare kidney cancer called membranous nephropathy. Following years of dialysis, he was lucky enough to find a donor and receive a transplant, though now he’s currently facing some complications.Depascale has an even rarer cancer, called extra-skeletal myxoid chondrosarcoma. It’s Stage Four and it’s in his bone marrow.Besides the unquantifiable pain and anguish suffered by the two and their loved ones are insurmountable medical bills and an inability to work, not to mention their shortened lifespan.Depascale and Neville, both former employees of Magazine Distributors, Inc. (MDI), who worked at the 100 building and its warehouse from about 1990 till 2002, when the company suddenly moved (employees were told it was the end of their lease; court transcripts reveal General Telephone and Electronics Corp. (GTE), who merged with Verizon in 2000, “assumed” the lease from MDI after purchasing the 140 property in 1999 for contamination remediation efforts and the 70 location in 2004) are literally battling for survival.They’re also fighting for justice.Depascale, his wife Joanne and Neville filed a toxic tort lawsuit against Verizon and its predecessors claiming negligence and liability, among other charges, in Nassau County State Supreme Court in 2007. The case was moved to federal court at the request of the defendants, who argued defense under government contractor immunity law—which protects contractors who perform federal work from lawsuits such as theirs. The jury heard expert testimony from both sides, also learning that an untold number of records relating to the Hicksville site had simply disappeared from GTE/Verizon’s files. Near the end of the trial, the presiding judge in that case, U.S. District Judge Leonard D. Wexler, impaneled an additional two alternate jurors, and according to Neville, ordered that for them to win, the verdict would have to be unanimous.It was, and on Nov. 12, 2009 after just eight days of testimony, the jury issued its verdict, awarding the trio $12 million on the grounds of causation, negligence and damages, finding they got past the federal contractor immunity.That detail of this saga has been reported before—as well as the settlement of a 2002 complaint alleging that nearly 300 Hicksville residents who live near the site developed cancers and related injuries because of it.Unreported is that more than five months after Depascale and Neville’s win, following an appeal by Verizon, Wexler, in the rare instance of a judge going against the will of a jury—ordered the case be retried, on limited grounds, effectively nullifying the award and ultimately, deeming the jury’s verdict a “miscarriage of justice.”They lost that trial—Neville bleeding through his shirt in the courtroom, though restricted to tell the jury that he or Depascale were even ill. They appealed, Verizon filed a cross-appeal, and now the pair is set to present oral arguments for why Wexler’s order for retrial should be overridden and the jury’s award reinstated before the Second Circuit U.S. Court of Appeals Jan. 15. Yet it’s not simply reparations for their medical debts that they’re fighting for now.The fate of countless other former residents, former MDI employees and others who’ve worked at the site may literally hang in the balance, since Wexler ordered a stay on another pending class action “medical monitoring” suit that could include innumerable plaintiffs until Depascale and Neville’s appeal has been decided.A Press investigation—part of an ongoing series into how its industrial and military past is affecting the Island’s current-day environment and residents and consisting of the analysis of hundreds of pages of state and federal records, including investigative reports concerning contamination to the soil, air and water at the site, remediation plans, maps, assessments, internal correspondence and thousands of pages of court filings and transcripts, among others—has discovered that GTE, Verizon and state regulators certainly knew or should have known about the site’s contamination years before Neville and Depascale and the hundreds of others who worked along Cantiague Rock Road ever stepped foot there.It reveals a twisted and unconscionable game of pass-the-buck when it comes to informing these workers of even the potential for adverse health effects, a game that continues to this day. What’s absolutely indisputable is that many people living around that site and who’ve worked there have developed horrific cancers. And that some have already died from these.Additionally, the records reveal that despite several state-supervised “voluntary” remediation efforts at the site—the largest conducted by GTE, which one report states included the excavation and removal of at least approximately 100,000 tons of contaminated soil and unearthed, partially filled tanks of radioactive and carcinogenic elements and chemicals—it remains contaminated and its true ramifications on the health and safety of not only Hicksville residents, but all Long Islanders (since we all share drinking water aquifers), may never be known.Neville, a bachelor, self-professed pessimist, horse bettor and the more outspoken of the pair, staked he and Depascale’s odds in court at 60-40 in Verizon’s favor when I first sat down with them six months ago. Recently, those self-ascribed odds have gotten worse. He says 70-30 now, in Verizon’s favor.“You ever feel like punching someone in the face and there’s no one there to punch, you’re that angry?” says Neville of how he felt when he learned what was beneath his workplace. “This is a 60 Minutes episode. This happens to somebody else. This doesn’t happen to me. This is insane.”For Depascale, who has a family to provide for, things have been even worse. Adding even more insult to so much injury, his workman’s compensation claim—which he originally won, is back in court again following two appeals.“Betrayed,” is how he feels. “They should have told us that that place was contaminated. If I knew about it, at least it would have been my choice to be there, not their choice.“It’s been a nightmare since I got sick,” he says.Requests for comment to the plaintiffs’ attorney, Joseph D. Gonzalez, and William H. Pratt, a lead attorney for the defendants in the litigation, went unanswered for this story.
5SHARESShareShareSharePrintMailGooglePinterestDiggRedditStumbleuponDeliciousBufferTumblr “The best camera you have is the one you have on you.”The oft-quoted statement among professional photographers now rings true for many of us amateurs.As cool as it is to have a high-end digital single-lens reflex camera capable of professional quality shots, it’s of no use to you when it’s at home. When the moment strikes and a camera is needed, the one you have on your smartphone is, in fact, “the best,” since it’s the one that gets the shot.Increasing evidence suggests a similar pattern for data. The best device to view and make use of your data is more and more often the one that’s with you.In the financial services space, consumers have come to expect 24/7 access to their financial data. In the past, they accessed that data while sitting at a desk, using a desktop PC or through a web browser. Today they are very likely to access their data using their phones. And the reality of the best data being the data that’s “on you” is even more striking when you consider consumers who access it using wearables, such as smart watches. continue reading »
But since we know that it is 10 times cheaper to return an existing customer than to get a new one, they were also asked what is most important to them to repeat the purchase. As expected, most of them will return if they aresatisfied with the purchase and service, and only after that if they are satisfied with the purchased product, and if the trader pointed them out attractive new offers. Therefore, good user experience with a retailer is most important to most online shoppers, which suggests that the most important factor on the internet – gain the trust of customers. The eCommerce Croatia Association conducted a survey of 1959 online customers with the help of its members – web retailers. More than 36 percent of respondents shop online at least once a month, while as many as 20 percent shop several times a week. The surveyed Croats mostly buy clothes and shoes on the Internet, followed by household items and electronic devices. Also, a significant portion of them buy online travels and tickets. According to information obtained from merchants who participated in the survey, 50 to 70 percent of purchases end with the choice of payment upon collection, but when these same customers are asked which payment method they prefer, most of them like the “card”, while “cash on delivery” second, and PayPal in a high third. The aim of the research was to find out what online shoppers in Croatia want, what they buy most often, which payment methods they prefer, how they make the purchase decision, and what bothers them the most after the purchase. Although as many as 23,4 percent of respondents give up shopping due to the search for a better price, slightly more of them give up due to negative reviews. When asked about the most important criteria for the first purchase, they put “the possibility of preferred payment”, But follow in their footsteps”positive customer reviews”And”safe purchase certificate”. One of the reasons for the discrepancy between desire and reality is probably the “fear of data theft” that still has over 56 percent of respondents, but also the fact that they can not ask for a card and type data. Given the recent introduction of a new PSD2 regulation that brings biometric verification, it is believed that the card payment process will be facilitated in the future. Source / photo: Ecommerce Croatia Although the research did not directly address the tourism sector, it provides a good overview and reveals the habits of online consumers. As we can see, if customers are satisfied with the quality of service, they are willing to repeat the purchase. On the other hand, if the reviews are negative, the buyer will cancel the purchase. Also, it is interesting that the possibility of preferred payment to customers is even more important than negative reviews, so every caterer and renter should offer several different payment methods when booking a tourist offer. According to the data of the Ecommerce Foundation from the Netherlands, Croatian ecommerce is continuously growing from year to year, and in 2019 it reached 449 million euros, which is about 6 percent of the total value of retail in the Republic of Croatia. Over 70 percent of the population in Croatia uses the Internet, and almost half of Croats have bought something online at least once. But how many of them do it a little more often?
“We still keep the decree in case things change,” he told reporters at a press briefing.The ministry’s estimate is based on state-owned Pertamina’s projected fuel demand. The top fuel distributor expects fuel consumption to fall by around 25 percent this year, compared with normal conditions, as businesses remain partially closed.The lower fuel consumption is primarily driven by lower aviation fuel and gasoline consumption, which are respectively used by airplanes and private vehicles. Diesel consumption fell less steeply as commercial vehicle activity remained relatively more active amid social restrictions.Topics : Consumption of key biodiesel ingredient fatty acid methyl esters (FAME) in Indonesia is expected to fall short of this year’s target by 13.6 percent amid falling fuel consumption.Consumption is expected to reach 8.3 million kiloliters, down from 9.6 million kl of subsidized FAME allocated for this year, said the Energy and Mineral Resources Ministry’s Renewables Director General Sutijastoto on Tuesday.Despite the lower consumption, his office will not revise the annual biodiesel subsidy budget, which is stipulated under energy ministry decree No. 119/2019.
National Catholic Register 14 October 2017Family First Comment: Some great nuggets of advice in this article…“Dr. Den Trumbull has been a practicing pediatrician for 30 years. He’s a founding member and former president of the American College of Pediatricians. Dr. Trumbull told me he’s seen a tremendous shift in the last 30 years in how parents think about discipline. The word itself now has a negative connotation, and its use has sharply declined in his experience. The shift, he says, has been away from training and teaching (which is what discipline is all about) to maintaining and entertaining children. I asked Dr. Trumbull what happens if parents only affirm their children and don’t correct them. “It’s counterproductive because children are naturally self-centered and egocentric. But many modern-day experts feel that if you simply avoid conflict and ‘follow the child,’ he or she will lead you along the right path eventually. That’s based on the philosophy that children are basically good and fair and innocent. But they’re not. Any parent of a toddler knows that children are innately selfish. Therefore, they need discipline – both affirmation and correction – as training to operate respectfully and to interact appropriately with those around them starting with parents and siblings, and ultimately as adults in society.”“Parents today seem paralyzed by uncertainty. They don’t know what to do or how to do it. They want to be their child’s friend. Parents seem to want to avoid conflict and keep their children happy all the time. But happiness comes with self-control and self-confidence. And confidence follows discipline; it doesn’t precede it.” He also believes that many parents today are simply too busy to invest the necessary time in building relationships with their children. Technology can be a problem, too, when parents and children spend too much time in front of screens and not enough time talking with each other.”In my last piece, Dr. Jane Anderson, a Clinical Professor of Pediatrics at UC San Francisco, explained how important it is for parents to be authority figures for their children. Authoritative parents (as opposed to those who are permissive or authoritarian) make rules and set standards for their children in a nurturing, loving way. Psychologist Diana Baumrind first identified these different styles of parenting by observing preschoolers and their parents. The children who were self-reliant and happy had parents who were nurturing, but didn’t hesitate to set limits. Studies have consistently backed up Baumrind’s findings that children raised by parents with an authoritative style have the best outcomes.Setting limits means being able to say ‘no,’ being prepared for misbehavior, and being ready to respond appropriately. Put simply, authoritative parents must be willing to discipline their children when necessary. And if you think the concept of authority is a tough sell for modern parents, try talking about discipline.Dr. Den Trumbull has been a practicing pediatrician for 30 years. He’s a founding member and former president of the American College of Pediatricians.Dr. Trumbull told me he’s seen a tremendous shift in the last 30 years in how parents think about discipline. The word itself now has a negative connotation, and its use has sharply declined in his experience. The shift, he says, has been away from training and teaching (which is what discipline is all about) to maintaining and entertaining children.“Discipline is commonly understood to mean punishment. But if you look at the definition of discipline it’s basically training that’s expected to produce a specific result,” Trumbull told me in an interview. Dr. Anderson echoes those sentiments, pointing out that the word discipline comes from the Greek word “to disciple,” which means to teach and mentor.According to Dr. Trumbull, discipline means training with the use of both affirmation and correction. What’s missing today – or is in steep decline at the very least – is the use of correction.I asked Dr. Trumbull what happens if parents only affirm their children and don’t correct them.“It’s counterproductive because children are naturally self-centered and egocentric. But many modern-day experts feel that if you simply avoid conflict and ‘follow the child,’ he or she will lead you along the right path eventually. That’s based on the philosophy that children are basically good and fair and innocent. But they’re not. Any parent of a toddler knows that children are innately selfish. Therefore, they need discipline – both affirmation and correction – as training to operate respectfully and to interact appropriately with those around them starting with parents and siblings, and ultimately as adults in society.”Keeping in mind that discipline means training, Dr. Trumbull suggests parents focus on these four things:First, the relationship between parent and child must be healthy. Rules without a relationship lead to rebellion. Parents need to slow down and build a relationship with their children. That means spending time with them. A parent/child relationship isn’t a friendship, it needs to be authoritative. Parents must be lovingly firm.Second is instruction. Make sure it’s clear and age appropriate. Toddlers can’t follow complex instructions, so repetition will be necessary.Third is affirmation. Children need to be praised for their good behavior. If parents find that their acts of correction outnumber their acts of affirmation, they may be “parenting on the fly,” as he puts it. Correction won’t work unless parents take the time to love their children and show them what to replace inappropriate behavior with.Fourth is correction. When children misbehave, they must be corrected or punished. Playpen timeouts are reasonable starting at around 15 months of age. By 18 months to 2 years of age, most children are ready for chair timeouts. At age three and a half, privilege removal is reasonable. And then there’s spanking.Because spanking has become so controversial, I asked Dr. Trumbull for guidelines for those parents who choose to use it. Here’s what he said:Typical ages for using spanking are between 2 and 6.Spanking should always be a planned action, not a reaction, and not done in anger.It should always occur in private to avoid humiliating the child.Use an open hand for one or two swats to the bottom.Always follow it with a review of the offense with the child and the reassurance of the parent’s unconditional love for the child.The most commonly used argument against spanking is that it teaches children that it’s OK to hit. Here’s what Dr. Trumbull has to say about that: “When spanking follows a proactive, forewarned procedure, the child does not perceive that as hitting. However, when it’s reactive and delivered in anger, that would not be appropriate.”He adds that spanking should be used when milder measures have failed. It shouldn’t be a parent’s first option. But when milder measures have not worked – such as disapproval, timeout, or logical consequences – spanking is appropriate.Dr. Trumbull shared with me some thoughts on why modern parents are hesitant to lead their children, to be authority figures to them.“Parents today seem paralyzed by uncertainty. They don’t know what to do or how to do it. They want to be their child’s friend. Parents seem to want to avoid conflict and keep their children happy all the time. But happiness comes with self-control and self-confidence. And confidence follows discipline; it doesn’t precede it.”He also believes that many parents today are simply too busy to invest the necessary time in building relationships with their children. Technology can be a problem, too, when parents and children spend too much time in front of screens and not enough time talking with each other.http://www.ncregister.com/blog/segelstein/has-discipline-become-a-dirty-word
36 Views no discussions Share Sharing is caring! Share Caribbean St. Lucia Dam_photo credit: caribbean360.comCASTRIES, St Lucia – St Lucia’s Water and Sewerage Company (WASCO) is literally wringing its hands in confusion as it has been forced to handle the current unseasonal heavy rainfall, just as it was gearing up to deal with a drought.The incessant rain over the last few days has not only ensured that the island’s largest reservoir the John Compton Dam was replenished but there are reports that it is overflowing!As of Monday, May 7, 2012, water levels at the Dam exceeded 334 feet, which means that water is now flowing over the spillway.This has erased fears of an impending drought as just last week, WASCO had informed the public that it would be embarking on a water rationing programme to help conserve the fast depleting resource at the Dam.WASCO had reported that as of last week, the dam receded to 227.1 feet or about six feet below the spillway.The recent rains have spurred a series of water cuts in various parts of the island as the water company seeks to deal with the increased water intake.The Company says that it is closely monitoring the system as rain continues to fall heavily with bursts of sunshine in betweenCaribbean 360 News NewsRegional St Lucia dam facing drought finds deluge. by: – May 9, 2012 Tweet Share