Like Mother, Like Daughter

first_imgI never realized how similar my mother and I are until I forced her onto a raft for a three-day, two-night float trip on the Upper New this past Fourth of July weekend.My mom never shies away from a challenge. Never mind that she hasn’t slept in a backpacking tent, or that she’d only been rafting a handful of times, or that she’d never pooped in the woods or made a meal on a camp stove or went multiple days without a shower and a mirror. Never mind that I was asking her to step completely outside of her comfort zone, away from text messages and Facebook and even a means of telling time. She wanted it, and more importantly, she wanted to learn. She wanted me to teach her how to set up a tent, how to pack a raft and seal a dry bag. Although I insisted on j-stroking the raft myself for 20 miles (from our put-in near Prince to our takeout at Cunard) and letting her lounge like a princess, she always asked questions, demanded to help unload gear, and stubbornly insisted that she had enough energy to help with dinner even as her eyes fluttered with fatigue from the past week’s non-stop action.Mom learning the art of Coleman cooking.Mom learning the art of Coleman cooking.Our first backcountry meal together: spinach, butternut squash, black beans, and quinoa.Our first backcountry meal together: spinach, butternut squash, black beans, and quinoa.“How do you do it?” she asked me after the trip as we loaded up the Go, piled our wet clothes into the Jeep, and began our five-hour journey back to the office in Charlottesville.“Coffee,” I said. “Lots of coffee.”While that may be true to a certain extent (FYI, my new favorite brew comes from Bald Guy Brew out of Valle Crucis – stay tuned for his story in the September issue of the magazine), I didn’t have much in the way of an answer for her. My schedule is always jam-packed, down to the very last second of every day. For better or for worse, that’s how I like it. I inherently bite off more than I can chew, dismiss sleep for sunrise shoots, and say ‘yes’ to any and every opportunity to explore new places, meet new people, and have a good time.My best friend once told me that I have a fear of missing out. At first, I was offended, quick to put up the defensive front and deny her accusation. But as I was driving last Sunday, eyeballing my mom with envy as she slept in the passenger seat, I realized that my friend was right. I am afraid of missing out. Yes, I was exhausted from the summer heat, from j-stroking a 16-foot raft loaded with gear by myself, from organizing the use of that raft and the gear my mom needed, from endless hours on the road, from the wheels in my brain already churning with the coming week’s responsibilities … but in the week that I’d spent with my mom, we’d done so many things, accomplished so many firsts for her! We’d toured the foodie scene in Asheville, cooled off at the base of Harper Creek Falls, watched the clouds pass lazily over the Linville Gorge, met some inspirational folks in Valle Crucis, and spent three full days on the river with some of my favorite people. And the best part? We were only one week into our two-week travels!Nuts don't fall far from the tree. Fun day at Harper Creek Falls.Nuts don’t fall far from the tree. Fun day at Harper Creek Falls.Cooling off at the base of the lower falls.Cooling off at the base of the lower falls.Checking out the overlook at Wiseman's View, Linville Gorge.Checking out the overlook at Wiseman’s View, Linville Gorge.#selfie#selfieMeeting Don Cox, aka Bald Guy, in Valle Crucis. Best almond espresso EVER.Meeting Don Cox, aka Bald Guy, in Valle Crucis. Best almond espresso EVER.But the fact that my mom was able to sleep soundly in a car (I was even cranking The Notorious B.I.G. and she didn’t seem to notice) was enough to finally put into perspective what my friend was trying to tell me: I can do anything, but I can’t do everything. While that’s easy for me to sum up in a neat little phrase, it’s a lot harder for my restless being to admit, accept, obey. Here I’d gone and worn my mother into the dirt, so much so that she, who rarely sleeps in the car, was now passed out, mouth open, unaware of my blasting old school hip hop and windows-rolled-down-despite-having-a.c. white noise.Yet, as I sat there drumming my fingers on the steering wheel, fretting about how I’d taken my mother from the comforts of her home to the passenger seat of my too-crammed car, another thought came to me: she’s an adult. She chose to tag along. She knew I wasn’t living in the lap of luxury. She knew I was living out of a camper. What’s more, I hadn’t heard her complain once. Despite having undergone spinal surgery in the past year (something with herniated discs and fusions and hardware), she never so much as uttered a grunt during the seven days I’d been dragging her through trails and up mountains and down rivers. She’s a tough cookie and, like me, she’s afraid of missing out on life.And so, Mom, in response to your question on how I do it, I think I have a more appropriate answer. You.When your shoes match your boat, you know you're killin' it. When your Astral shoes match your boat, you know you’re killin’ it.Greg Dale lounging on the Upper New float.Greg lounging on the Upper New float.Mom riding princess-style.Mom riding princess-style.First morning on the New.First morning on the New.Nighttime on the New.Nighttime on the New.Campfires soothe the soul.Campfires soothe the soul.IMG_2558The New crew, throwing up the T.O.T.The New crew, throwing up the T.O.T.Did I mention we came across a private collector of VW vanagons? Bizarrely awesome to see hundreds of these icons parked and organized by color.Did I mention we came across a private collection of VW vanagons? Organized by color? Yeah.last_img read more


Long Island Pakistanis Mourn Victims of Taliban School Attack

first_imgView image | Sign up for our COVID-19 newsletter to stay up-to-date on the latest coronavirus news throughout New York Local Pakistanis and faith groups mourning the 145 victims—132 of them children—of a Taliban school attack are planning a candlelight vigil in Mineola on Wednesday evening.The brazen attack shocked the world on Tuesday as reports came in describing how ruthless Taliban gunman stormed the Army Public School and Degree College in Pashawar and indiscriminately sprayed bullets into uniformed children and their teachers.“I could not focus since I heard the news,” said Isma Chaudhry, the president-elect of the Islamic Center of Long Island, who was raised in Lahore. “What is most shameful is that this is all done in the name of religion and these are acts beyond any explanation, beyond any sense, beyond any human understanding.”Pakistani troops who responded to the school described a horrific scene of pools of blood and bullet-ridden bodies of lifeless children scattered on the floor. Some students recalled how the Taliban forced them to watch as their teacher was burned alive. None of the attackers survived the siege.The tragedy shocked Pakistani-born Long Islanders who have been struggling to come to terms with the brutal terrorist attack.“These were children,” Chaudhry added. “I have kids…I just cannot imagine such a horrific, heinous action toward anyone, especially kids.”Bashir Qamar, founder of Pakistani American Community of Long Island, a cultural and social organization, said his group will mourn the dead at a candlelight vigil at the Theodore Roosevelt Executive & Legislative Building in Mineola at 6 p.m. Wednesday.“We were in sudden shock,” he said. “We were speechless. It was such a sad and tragic incident.” Qamar, who is from Karachi, said he was hoping that the Pakistani Army could put an end to the violence.According to reports, the attack was in retaliation for a Pakistani military offensive against the military group on the Afghan border.“There’s no justification, there is nothing,” added Chaudhry. “It’s something you cannot really comprehend.”When she lived in Pakistan, Chaudhry said her family would travel to Pashawar often. She described it as a “major city” that is home to children who take pride in their education. For some Pakistani children, however, school is not an option because families cannot afford the cost of education, she said.“It’s not something that comes in easy or is taken for granted,” she said. “You should see these kids the way they’re dressed up…because they have a lot of pride.” Chaudhry spoke to friends and family back home shortly after the attack. Everyone is “weeping a loss,” she said.She said interfaith groups from across the region have reached out to the ICLI and expressed deep sadness. An interfaith prayer service is expected to be held at the ICLI’s mosque in Westbury Wednesday afternoon to mourn the victims.The devastating attack came less than a week after Malala Yousafzai became the youngest recipient of the Nobel Peace prize. Yousafzai survived a Taliban assassination attempt in Pakistan after she was targeted for her pro-education advocacy.“I am heartbroken by this senseless and cold-blooded act of terror in Peshawar that is unfolding before us,” Yousafzai said in a statement. “Innocent children in their school have no place in horror such as this.” View image | gettyimages.comlast_img read more


Cops Probe 3 Armed Home Invasions on Long Island in 3 Days

first_imgSign up for our COVID-19 newsletter to stay up-to-date on the latest coronavirus news throughout New York Nassau police released this sketch of one of the suspects in the New Cassel case.Authorities are investigating three armed home invasions over President’s Day weekend, including one in which shots were fired and another in which the suspect pretended to be a victim in need of help, Nassau and Suffolk county police said.In the first case, a man knocked on the door of a Mastic home on Mastic Boulevard and told the woman who answered the door that he was hit by a car at 7:15 a.m. Saturday, Suffolk police said.last_img


A lesson from the lemmings*

first_imgWe have worked with organizations that have used the concept of social norms to, among other things, reduce loan delinquency rates, increase the number of members who vote in board elections, improve staff participation in training programs and to increase the number of hours their teams contribute to volunteer programs. How might your organization leverage this science?*Yes, we know that the legend of a mass of lemmings following each other off a cliff is just a myth, but still! When I was little and asked to do something my friends were doing, my mother often responded, “if all you friends were jumping off a bridge, would you?” Even a casual study of human behavior would suggest that in many cases the answer to that question is YES, and behavioral scientists have a very clear understanding of how social norms and peer pressure impact the behaviors of consumers of all ages.Social norms are the informal, unwritten rules that govern and influence behavior among members of a group; research, experiments and practical applications have demonstrated just how powerful social norms can be. Some industries really leverage this science to shift behaviors. Most of you likely receive a quarterly or annual statement from your local utility provider, showing how your use compares to your neighbors. Much of the genesis for this process came from a large study in San Diego where a variety of methods were tested to get consumers to use less electricity. Messages touting cost savings, environmental protection or society benefit generated almost no measurable reduction in use. But the message that their household was using more energy than their neighbors generated an overall 10% reduction among consumers who received that news. Think about that – a reminder that focused on cost savings had no impact, but the news that you did not compare well with your neighbors shifted behavior significantly! That is powerful.So how might credit unions use this technique to help shape better financial behavior in their members? As an example, how might we use this to help our members save more? One way would be to highlight the difference between an individual household’s savings balance and the average balance of a group of your members that the targeted household is part of.There are some guidelines for leveraging social norms to shift behaviors.For the purposes of social norms in behavioral economics, members tend to identify with a societal group because of the characteristics the group represents. And most individuals have at least 7-10 of these sorts of groups to whom they relate. So make sure that the societal group you use reflects a group that your target is part of or aspires to be part of. Specificity is important, and studies show the narrower you can draw the societal group the more powerful the impact. Using an average for your entire membership is good, but specifying a neighborhood, an age range, family size, or a S.E.G. is likely to have a stronger impact in your effort to shift behaviors.As powerful as the established behavior of someone’s societal group can be, even more powerful in effecting behavior change is the news that the behavior of your group is shifting. Shifting behavior in your societal group sends a message that something is changing and provides a stronger impulse to evaluate your own behavior. For instance, telling your members that their societal group is beginning to save more will usually have more impact than simply telling them that their societal group saves more.Messages that a household trails it’s societal group should not focus on the shortfall, but instead offer encouraging tones and offer simple, straightforward suggestions for improving performance. Similarly, households that are exceeding the performance of their group should receive positive messages that encourage continued strong behavior. 6SHARESShareShareSharePrintMailGooglePinterestDiggRedditStumbleuponDeliciousBufferTumblr,Rick Leander Rick Leander is Founder and Managing Partner of LFB Holdings, a behavioral insights consultancy that works with established and startup enterprises.At LFB Holdings we teach clients how to leverage … Web: Detailslast_img read more


Nikki Bella Was ‘Really Shocked’ After Gleb Savchenko’s Split

first_imgSavchenko, 37, and Samodanova, 36, announced on Friday, November 6, that they were going their separate ways after 14 years of marriage and two children together. Shortly after confirming their split, rumors of infidelity swirled around the former couple, particularly surrounding Savchenko’s chemistry with season 29 Dancing With the Stars partner Chrishell Stause. Both the ballroom dancer and the Selling Sunset star, 39, denied the cheating allegations.“One thing that I’ve just known from personal experiences is there’s always two sides to every story so keep that in mind,” Nikki, who competed on season 25 of DWTS in 2017, said on Wednesday. “But then I know because things started to fall on Chrishell. So Chrishell came out with a statement and said, ‘We’re only friends,’ ’cause I think people then took that and assumed they were having an affair.”The Total Bellas star admitted that during her experience on the ABC dance competition, she noticed plenty of pros growing close to their celebrity partners. Nikki competed with Artem Chigvintsev, and the duo later sparked a romance outside of the ballroom. In July, they welcomed their first child together, son Matteo, seven months after announcing their engagement. Chigvintsev, 38, is currently competing in the DWTS ballroom with Kaitlyn Bristowe.CHRISHELL STAUSE GLEB SAVCHENKO cheating rumorsChrishell Stause and Gleb Savchenko ABC/Eric McCandless- Advertisement – “[Chrishell was] like, ‘We all just get really close. You just get really close with your partner,’ and she starts to talk about that and I’m like, ‘Yeah, right?’” Nikki continued on the podcast. “Then I’m like, ‘Wait! My guy has a partner!’ It’s funny now to be on the other side. … Artem didn’t find it too funny but people were like, ‘[It’s] Sleeping With the Stars,’ and had all these jokes of all these new names of Dancing With the Stars.”Though Savchenko and Samodanova’s split quickly turned messy, the Incomparable coauthor hopes the drama doesn’t sour DWTS‘ reputation.Gleb Savchenko Elena Samodanova cheating rumorsGleb Savchenko and Elena Samodanova MediaPunch/Shutterstock“I know people will blame dance. And the one thing is, it is very touchy-feely with the opposite sex so that’s where I think it gets more attention. Or if people are playing a love relationship on a TV screen, I think those get more tension because they’re actually being pretty intimate. But I feel like this can happen anywhere,” Nikki said. “When you have an attraction to someone, that’s it. I know people who were on Dancing With the Stars and they hated who they were dancing with or they became like brother and sister. … I think that’s anywhere you go. If the attraction’s there, it’s there and that’s life and that’s how it happens.”- Advertisement – Still in shock. Nikki Bella couldn’t believe her eyes after learning of Gleb Savchenko‘s recent split from wife Elena Samodanova.“I love Gleb and his wife,” the former pro wrestler, 36, said while speaking with Brie Bella during their “Bellas Podcast” on Wednesday, November 11. “I definitely was shocked. I thought they were doing amazing. It just goes to show you again … what you see on Instagram, you don’t really know what’s going on behind closed doors, right? Because if you look at their Instagram, they just look so happy and all family-oriented.”Nikki Bella People Will Blame Dance for Gleb Savchenko's SplitNikki Bella and Gleb Savchenko Richard Shotwell/Invision/AP/Shutterstock Kelsey McNeal/ABC- Advertisement – Listen to Us Weekly’s Hot Hollywood as each week the editors of Us break down the hottest entertainment news stories! – Advertisement –last_img read more


Arsenal attackers should copy Liverpool as example for success, says Ian Wright

first_imgArsenal attackers should copy Liverpool as example for success, says Ian Wright Comment James GrayFriday 23 Aug 2019 6:23 pmShare this article via facebookShare this article via twitterShare this article via messengerShare this with Share this article via emailShare this article via flipboardCopy link84Shares Advertisement The three Arsenal stars are still learning how to play together (Picture: Getty)But Wright reckons the addition of Pepe, a club-record signing at £72million from French club Lille, could turn Unai Emery’s attack into a group like the one Jurgen Klopp has at his disposal.AdvertisementAdvertisementADVERTISEMENT‘If the Arsenal three click like we have seen the Liverpool three click, then in Lacazette you have the hold-up player who can nick things in the box but also link play,’ Wright told The Athletic.More: FootballRio Ferdinand urges Ole Gunnar Solskjaer to drop Manchester United starChelsea defender Fikayo Tomori reveals why he made U-turn over transfer deadline day moveMikel Arteta rates Thomas Partey’s chances of making his Arsenal debut vs Man City‘Pepe can beat people one-on-one, cutting in from the right assisting and scoring. Aubameyang, with his pace on the shoulder, can punish teams.‘We can give players the possibility to close down, win the ball in that last third, then give it to the strikers. That is ideal.’center_img Liverpool’s front three terrifies defences and Wright hopes Arsenal’s trio can do the same (Getty)Pepe was chased by a host of huge clubs across Europe before putting pen to paper at the Emirates and Wright is delighted that Arsenal’s existing players were able to lure him to north London.Wright added: ‘Before Pepe got there, you saw Aubameyang and Lacazette welcoming him on social media by doing his salute celebration. When you see that you know they are letting him know that he is already loved.‘They can’t wait for him to be there. All he needs now is games. Even the other day, he gets on the ball and it’s just exciting. He does a couple of moves and you think, “Ooh, this is awesome”.‘They want the three of them to be an item. Not the two of them. It’s a three-pronged attack with pace, and something different in each of those players.’Which front three is better?Aubameyang, Lacazette, Pepe0%Salah, Mane, Firmino0%Share your resultsShare your resultsTweet your resultsMore: Arsenal FCArsenal flop Denis Suarez delivers verdict on Thomas Partey and Lucas Torreira movesThomas Partey debut? Ian Wright picks his Arsenal starting XI vs Manchester CityArsene Wenger explains why Mikel Arteta is ‘lucky’ to be managing Arsenal Advertisement Wright loves the idea of all three big-money attackers in the starting XI for Arsenal (Picture: Getty)Ian Wright is very excited by the prospect of the Arsenal front line this season and reckons their three different skill sets could see them emulate Liverpool’s Champions League-winning front three.Mohamed Salah, Sadio Mane and Roberto Firmino powered Liverpool to their highest ever top-flight points total and a sixth European title last season, each providing a different type of threat to defences.Arsenal have mostly had a two-pronged attack with the big-money signings of Pierre-Emerick Aubameyang and Alexandre Lacazette leading the line.last_img read more


UK watchdog warns of “serious risk of harm” from spread-betting

first_imgShare FCA suspends all Wirecard UK transactions and services June 26, 2020 Share Submit GambleAware urges UK Finance to get strict on Gambling Blockers July 7, 2020 Related Articles Britain’s financial watchdog has warned spread-betting firms of poor practices, following a review by the Financial Conduct Authority (FCA) related to the industry’s use of contracts for difference (CFD)A warning letter has stated consumers are “at serious risk of harm,” after finding that the majority of customers lost money through their trades.The regulator revealed that it found 76% of retail customers who bought CFD products in the period covered by the review, June 2015 – June 2016, lost money as a result. In its letter to chief executives, the FCA stated: “The review uncovered areas of serious concern that we want to highlight to firms across the industry.”The providers of CFDs, which the FCA described as “complex, high risk instruments”, were also found to have “weak” conflict of interest controls, as well as “ineffective” communication, monitoring and challenge practices.This was in addition to a “flawed” due diligence processes when taking on new distributors of CFDsThe FCA warned: “Given the significant weaknesses we found across our sample, we believe there is a high risk that firms across the sector are not meeting our rules and expectations when providing and distributing CFDs.Adding that chief executives have now been told to consider whether firms are complying with FCA requirements.It was also noted that, some companies have stated their intent to cease offering CFD’s to distributors that provide the contracts on an advisory or discretionary basis, while others are no longer offering them to retail consumers.The FCA also highlighted one firm, who remained nameless, “whose arrangements were so poor” that it now plans to “take further action.” Treasury praises UKGC for contribution on AML research July 18, 2019 StumbleUponlast_img read more


Add Color to your Landscape at The Plant Place

first_imgFacebook10Tweet0Pin1 Submitted by The Plant Place NurseryNow is the time to add color to your landscape.  Here are some of the lovely things we recommend at The Plant Place Nursery.  All of these plants are currently available at the nursery retail lot on 3333 South Bay Rd. NE Olympia, WA 98506.  Open Tuesday through Saturday 10:00 am-5:30 pm. Closed Sunday and Monday.We also carry bare root fruit trees: apple, pear, and cherry.Plants pictured include Japanese Maple, Daphne, Lonicera, Barberry, Katsura Pieris, Heuchera, Ceanothus, Rhododendrons, Wallflower, Euphorbia, Salvia, Grasses, Viburnum, Lithodora, Lilac, Mexican Orange, Vine Maple, Vaccinium, Creeping Phlox, Ash Leaf Spirea, Euonymus, Dappled Willow, Hosta, Heather, Brunnera, Hellebore, Oxalis, Columbine, and Pulmonarialast_img read more